Real Motivation Blog

COACHING/COUNSELLING FOR ALL - £25 per session

Special rates for special times, and I don't see why anybody should miss out, regardless of their circumstances. 

I've asked around lots of people, and most say for £25 they would go for the help they so desperately need.

So, there is my offer.  And the session can last up to 45 minutes.

So don't wait any longer, e-mail me now and book your session.  Remember, you can be anywhere in the world, since we work by phone.

There are only 5 places, so either anne@realmotivation.com or ring me on 01738 626512 and we can start immediately.

Its your life, your future,  your happiness - don't sacrifice it to the people who've made it so hard for you.

SINGLE PARENTS OF TEENAGERS - SUPPORT GROUP

Teenagers.  Sigh..........!!!!......S   C   R   E   A   M        But is anybody listening?  Not usually.  Certainly not the teenager.

 Do you feel despair?
Are you just so emotionally drained you don't care any more?
Have you tried everything, and nothing seems to work?
Do you feel so alone and isolated you feel you can't go on much longer?

HELP HAS ARRIVED

Its bad enough when you have all the support of a partner, family and friends.  But, what if you have nobody.  How much like hell is that?  And I know plenty single parents who have no available support for a variety of different reasons.  Life is hard enough without having to get through teenagers hormonal years totally alone.

So, here is an option.

    SUPPORT GROUP BY TELECONFERENCE FOR SINGLE PARENTS OF TEENAGERS

You can be anywhere in the country, still be at home, and have all the support you dreamed of at the end of the phone.  And its free.  You'll be able to share your despair, your feelings that you wouldn't dare admit to anybody else, and benefit from things other parents have tried.  Just knowing you are not alone is a long way to feeling better.

To get this started, all you need to do is E-MAIL ME NOW and you can join the group.

This is for YOU, not your teenager, but they will obviously benefit too.  Come on, join us now, life is too short to be on your own.

BRIAN HOUSTON and BARACK OBAMA

 
THE   INVITATION

It read: ‘Members of the Congress of the United States of America request the pleasure of your company at the 57th National Prayer Breakfast with the President of the US and other national leaders in the Executive, Judicial and Legislative Branches of our Government. It will take place on Thursday, February 5, 2009 at 8pm Hilton Washington International Ballroom, Washington DC.’”
(excerpt from the Belfast News)

Brian Houston

This guy is phenomenal anyway.  I've had the privilege of knowing Brian and his family for many years now, firstly because of his music, and because of my total faith and conviction in him and his ability, his skills and enormous talent, became friends with Brian and his family as well.

Its no surprise to me that Brian was invited to play for Obama, but its hugely exciting and rewarding to know that through Brians utter dedication to his music, and with the support of his family, that his journey has taken him to Washington to play for the President.

I am SO PROUD of you Brian..........you deserve every success.  And not only because your music is so brilliant, but because of who you are as a person.  And I know you won't be surprised to hear me say that, because I've told you so many many times already.

If you don't know who I'm talking about - then shame on you, but you can be forgiven, go directly to
www.brianhouston.com and listen to his music.  Its a cross between early Bob Dylan and Bruce Springsteen.  What could be better than that.........except for hearing Brian play live. He appeals to all age groups and has gigs all over the UK, Ireland and the USA.  He has played with some huge names, and is well known on the celebrity circuit.

MARCUS DE MARIA INVESTMENT MASTERY - DVD's for sale.

Now is a really good time for people to learn about the stock market, and how to invest money.  Marcus de Maria is widely acknowledged as the real Master of this, a brilliant example and a brilliant teacher.
His workshops investment mastery are expensive, (£3000)  but obviously worthwhile and value for money if you practise what he teaches you.

I bought his dvds a couple of years ago, and they are brilliant for anybody who has a desire to learn about the stockmarket and how to invest but can't make the workshops in person.

Currently his dvds are being sold for  £570inc. vat. 

YOU  CAN BUY MY DVDs FOR £350.......and they are in mint condition

How you can reach financial independence in just 2 hours a month

The same strategy that Warren Buffett uses.

The 4 steps to becoming a successful investor.

Simple proven strategies to make money, EVEN IN THE CURRENT CLIMATE.

E-MAIL ME NOW and take advantage of this before somebody else does.

LAW OF ATTRACTION TELECONFERENCES - FREE

THIS WEEK THURSDAY 12th February , we are again discussing our relationship with money and how it works with the Law of Attraction

This was a really lively call last week, and so enjoyable and inspiring, we are continuing with the same topic this week.

We now have people from all over the UK on the call, which is great, and there is room for more.
Certainly there is room for you, we've been waiting for YOU.

We are learning, sharing, and inspiring each other with these lively discussions. You only pay for the cost of the call, which works out about £2.00 and should actually be free if you have the free evening and weekend calls with BT. 

So, what are you waiting for?  What have  you got to lose?  You don't have to say anything on the call at all if you don't want to.  Just listen.

e-mail me for details.  Don't miss out.  These calls can be life changing.

SURVIVAL SKILLS for the UNEMPLOYED

So has it happened to you yet?  If it hasn't odds on that  you are worrying when its going to happen.
After all, its happened to more than 2million people now, so why not you.

I don't know which is worse.  Waiting for it to happen, or that it has actually  happened.

Can you plan for it?  Can you prepare?  Or are you just philosophical about it?

Whichever one it is, I do know that its a blow for peoples confidence, self-esteem, personal power.

People get scared.  How will they manage financially?  The truth is, they may not.

Will they ever get another job?  We are told, oh don't worry about age - age-ism is against the law now.  But, it exists, of course.  As many over 50 yr olds will testify.  And possibly younger ones.

So, what can you do in this unpredictable climate?

1.    Get all your paperwork, bills and administration in order so that you know what you are dealing with.

2.    Find out what the policy and procedures are with regard to the various companies you owe money            to, and what will happen if you can't pay.

3.   Remember you are one of millions of UK people who are in this position, its not just you, so the         companies are used to making arrangements.  What else can they do.....if none of us has any money     to pay, then the companies have to make the best of a bad job, and generally they will, as long as you     are up front with them, and at least pay a little of what you owe, even a few £££'s is better than             nothing.
It will cost them alot  more to take any legal action, and they are losing enough money anyway.

4.   Investigate whether any insurances may cover  your payments.

5.    Go to Citizens Advice. They will help with anything and everything, have properly trained staff, and some specialists who only deal with employment, or benefits, or debt.  Yes, they are run off their feet just now, but they will always make time for you. www.citizensadvice.org.uk

6.    Sign on at your local job centre ( www.jobcentreplus.gov.uk/)    
      don't even bother arguing with yourself - just do it - get over it - its what everybody has to do right now
      and surprisingly you might find the people at the job centre very pleasant to deal with.  I met a               woman recently who found a job just through chatting to somebody else waiting in the job centre.

7.   Get over yourself yet again.  Its not all about you.  Its a sign of the times.  So be pro-active, take control and find out how you can better  yourself, or even feel better about yourself whilst you have the opportunity.

8.    Make yourself a daily schedule.  Get up in the morning.  Get some exercise into your day.  Make sure you go out, even if you have nowhere to go - go somewhere.  Sign up for some volunteering - Citizens Advice are finding it hard to keep up, get in touch with them, you may be able to help somebody.

9.    Work on your confidence.  Get some books out of the local libary, or look on-line for some either free or some inexpensive confidence programmes, and work it, work it, work it.

10    Take the time to think how you would really like your life to be (it sounds trite even as I'm writing it - sorry - don't know how else to say it).

 I would love a job like................
I would love to be able to live........

Give your dreams words, let them come alive, just play around with it, get some creativity going - and keep away from people who are all doom and gloom, and full of negative thoughts.  You don't need that right now, you need people around you who will inspire you, keep your spirits up, support you through these hard times

11.    Know that this too will pass.  Treat it like a very difficult project you need to manage.  Because thats what it is.  A difficult project in life, and there is a way of living through this, and coming out smiling at the other side.  And you will.

12.    Now that you have the time, do some of the things you have always wanted to do.  Paint? Walk?
Learn something new?  You know you can be signed up for the individual learning account where they have hundreds of different things on offer.

Just know that this is like an enforced career/job break.  If its happened - you can only accept it and move on with your journey of life.  If  you struggle and rage against it, you are only making things difficult for yourself.

I can help you - e-mail me.  I am helping lots of people right now who don't have any money to pay for coaching, and we can work something out.

Don't struggle...........we are all here to help each other.

BULLYING AT WORK is RAMPANT (i.e.prevailing or unchecked)

www.libcom.org

Firstly I want to apologise to all my friends who have previously complained to me about bullying going on at work.  I thought they were exaggerating, and I thought they were being overly negative.  WRONG!!!

I have been unfortunate enough to witness this first hand.  Yes, Management Behaving Badly, but why is it allowed to go on in this day and age when there are so many procedures set down to prevent it, or deal with it.  Its unbelievable.  Are people too scared, scared of the consequences?  What I fail to comprehend is that even when Senior Management, or Board Level, are alerted to these unacceptable behaviours, still its swept under the carpet.

My belief is very simple.  Treat everybody with respect, care and kindness.  It appears though that some people in management really don't "get" that.  Being generous, I suppose they cannot deal with the stress in target driven situations, or they have never been taught how to deal with their staff?  Well, for heavens sake, WHYEVER NOT? Its 2009, and we are spoiled for choice with organisations offering training , communication, interaction, etc.

No organisation is exempt.  Charities, government funded organisations, councils (very popular for bullying at work!!) educational establishments.........everywhere it seems to be rampant and goes unchecked.

To be on the receiving end is hell.  Like being back at school, being left out and picked on.  Being made fun of.  It happens because you are younger, because you are older, because you come from a different culture, or because somebody just doesn't like you, or is threatened by you and doesn't know how to deal with you. Ignoring you because they are in a bad mood - for days and days on end.

I have seen Line Managers being overly friendly, speaking out of turn,being two faced about their staff members, shouting and screaming down the phone at them, reducing them to tears by sending nasty e-mails.  E-mailing behind peoples backs,telling lies, trying to control their staff as if they were prisoners-

The real question is how do these people ever get into management with no management skills?  A young inexperienced woman from a totally opposite background applied for and was given the title of team leader, which was immediately translated into Manager.  She had never previously managed or even interviewed anybody, but was given the task of recruitment as well as responsibility for senior experienced staff.  She had no training, no people skills, no management experience or ability, and clearly didn't know what she was doing.  But whatever she did was right of course.  This resulted in people leaving, other staff looking desperately for new jobs, staff taking up smoking to relieve stress, and taking anti-depressants.  This is only the tip of the problem.  Much of it, like an iceberg, remains hidden.

What is unforgiveable is the negative impact somebody like this (together with her line manager who really should take  responsibility, but won't) has on so many other peoples lives.

My advice? Please don't put up with it.  There are ways out of it, round it, ways to cope and support to be had. Your life is worth more than the misery these people are causing you.

You can always contact me  anne@realmotivation.com   for your first free session.

Here is another helpful link   www.bullyfreeworkplace.org

I WISH YOU ENOUGH

"I wish you enough!"©

 By Bob Perks

I never really thought that I'd spend as much time in airports as I do. I don't know why. I always wanted to be famous and that would mean lots of travel. But I'm not famous, yet I do see more than my share of airports. I love them and I hate them. I love them because of the people I get to watch. But they are also the same reason why I hate airports.

 It all comes down to "hello" and "goodbye."I must have mentioned this a few times while writing my stories for you. I have great difficulties with saying goodbye. Even as I write this I am experiencing that pounding sensation in my heart. If I am watching such a scene in a movie I am affected so much that I need to sit up and take a few deep breaths. So when faced with a challenge in my life I have been known to go to our local airport and watch people say goodbye. I figure nothing that is happening to me at the time could be as bad as having to say goodbye. Watching people cling to each other, crying, and holding each other in that last embrace makes me appreciate what I have even more.

 Seeing them finally pull apart, extending their arms until the tips of their fingers are the last to let go, is an image that stays forefront in my mind throughout the day. On one of my recent business trips, when I arrived at the counter to check in, the woman said, "How are you today?" I replied, "I am missing my wife already and I haven't even said goodbye." She then looked at my ticket and began to ask, "How long will you...Oh, my God. You will only be gone three days!" We all laughed. My problem was I still had to say goodbye. But I learn from goodbye moments, too. Recently I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together.

 They had announced her departure and standing near the security gate, they hugged and he said, "I love you. I wish you enough." She in turn said, "Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Daddy." They kissed and she left. He walked over toward the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry.

 I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, "Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?" "Yes, I have," I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me. So I knew what this man experiencing. "Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever goodbye?" I asked. "I am old and she lives much too far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is, the next trip back would be for my funeral," he said. "When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, "I wish you enough." May I ask what that means?" He began to smile.

 "That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone." He paused for a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more."When we said 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them," he continued and then turning toward me he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.

 "I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
 I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
 I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
 I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
 I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
 I wish enough "Hello's" to get you through the final "Goodbye."

He then began to sob and walked away.

 My friends, I wish you enough!

  My friends, I wish you enough! Bob Perks Bob@BobPerks.com

FREE TELECLASS - LAW OF ATTRACTION - FACT OR FICTION

LAW OF ATTRACTION - FACT OR FICTION 

- TELECLASS DISCUSSION

Every Thursday evening from January 8th 2009

Location    By telephone in your own home

Date           Every Thursday evening from January 8th 2009

LAW OF ATTRACTION - FACT or FICTION

Happy New Year, and please join us for a very promising discussion around the Law of Attraction - we can all learn and grow from everybody else. The more the merrier.

FREE DISCUSSION GROUP for everybody who has an interest or a question around the Law of Attraction. Why does it work for some (or does it?) and not for others. What is it, and how does it work?
And any other questions you may have

Bridge Number     0844 84 84 84 0

code :                       e-mail me to book your place (anne@realmotivation.com) 

time                         6.30 - 8 p.m.

date                         8th January 2009 and every Thursday evening



everybody welcome, bring a friend along and lets get this to grow around the UK, and then the world. Who knows what might happen - expect success.....

Your next step

More information

e-mail me at anne@realmotivation.com

COMING SOON - MANAGEMENT BEHAVING BADLY

Just keep an eye out for this article in the next few weeks.  I've been doing a fair bit of research, and to say I'm SHOCKED is an understatment.

I was shocked a few years back when working with small businesses, and couldn't figure out how most of them managed to keep going.

Now I'm SHOCKED at the things that are going on in big businesses,some goverment agencies, and other official organisations.

This thing about bullying - I thought there was all kinds of legislation and honourable codes in operation now. So how come it still exists - everybody has a story, at least one story - and how come people are putting up with it.

More to the point, why are organisations turning a blind eye, why are they not putting their procedures into operation?

Please e-mail me if you have a story to tell - I will be publishing ANONYMOUSLY.  I would love to include your story too.  anne@realmotivation.com

HAVE YOU MET RONNIE DAVIDSON?

Have you met this man?  His name is Ronnie Davidson.
If you haven't met him, and most of you won't, have a look at his web-site www.careerstudio.co.uk/ .
This man is amazing.  Truly.

I first found him in the yellow pages.  Probably one of the only times I've ever found somebody I wanted from the yellow pages.  My son, 19, was having difficulty deciding on his future direction.  Naturally, I can't help.  What do I know - I'm his mother.  The appointment was arranged for Ronnie to meet Scott.  The results were brilliant.

Not only does Ronnie know what he's talking about with regard to careers, college, and other opportunities available, he is probably one of the most perceptive people I've met, and with the awesome ability of being able to  analyse and articulate his assessment in frighteningly accurate and impressive terms.  And another thing - Ronnie gives more than 100% added value. (oh, yes, you DO pay him, but its not nearly enough to reflect his worth)

So, having got my son sorted out, I thought - well, why not me.......lets see if he can do the business for me.  Wow! (Is that still a word...?)  I spent hours with Ronnie.  I don't know when he first had me sussed, and I really liked it too.  He gives you a recording of the whole meeting (computer download - fantastic)
and he pointed me in directions I would never have thought of.  He also pointed me in directions I had thought of, but had never taken seriously.

Ronnie gave me much more than career advice, that isn't really why I went to him.  If you are having any doubts about what you are doing, what you want to do, and what you might want to do,  - or even if you aren't having doubts - I suggest you give Ronnie a call, or e-mail him at  ronnie@careerstudio.co.uk. Although Ronnie prefers to meet face-to-face, because thats how he will "read" you accurately, I still encourage you to call .  If you want to find or re-affirm your confidence levels, be given validation, lift your self-esteem, and just generally feel you really are somebody worthwhile, the number to call is
 01334 844900 .